Long-distance relationships are hard. Sometimes I think the worst part is knowing that I’ve chosen to be apart from my partner, that this time I do not have the excuse of school, or family. It’s my ambition and career plans which keep me here. I am very much enjoying being here, don’t get me wrong. And I do have ways to cope–I even wrote about it. But it is still hard.
Which is why it is good to commiserate. A few weeks ago there was a brilliant Op-Ed in the New York Times from a woman whose partner was in Iraq. Her tip, to use paper letters to truly connect with a far away loved one, is one I have written about. Possibly my favorite theme in this article is of the tension between keeping things light and talking out emerging issues. This is a tension which is always present when face-to-face communication is impossible. This is a great article to read for anyone living away from a loved one.
PS: turns out I’m not the only one doing the long-distance thing. Penelope Trunk, one of my favorite bloggers after my mom, says that Millennials (yup, that’s me) are making long-distance work en-mass. Cool.
“No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the love of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.” Robert Southey